Life coaches and therapists have different missions when it comes to helping people change their lives.
Life coaches and therapists both help people improve their lives, but in different ways. People seeking solutions to life, work, family, and relationship problems may seek out one or the other—or both simultaneously—at different times in their lives.
After completing a six-month coaching program years ago, psychologist and leadership coach Carol Kauffman, PhD, ABPP, PCC, said she realized that therapists focus on helping people heal, while life coaches focus on helping them reach goals.
Therapists help people heal, while life coaches help them reach their goals.
“It became clear to me that coaching is a completely unique approach to change, and training is crucial,” she says.
As a psychologist specializing in peak performance training, Kauffman works with highly successful CEOs and their teams and is considered one of the top leadership coaches in the world. “I also realized I had always been a coach at heart, as my approach revolved around potential and strengths,” she says.
Coaches Focus on the Future, While Therapists Probe the Past
Since that “aha” moment, Kauffman has played a leading role in the coaching profession as founder and co-chair of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital in Boston, a Harvard Medical School affiliate. She’s also a faculty member at Harvard Medical School and her work is widely published.
Kauffman says therapists follow a person’s trail of tears, while coaches follow their trail of dreams.
In 2006, Kauffman’s groundbreaking article “Positive Psychology: The Science at the Heart of Coaching” was published as a chapter in a book on evidence-based coaching. She describes the difference between therapists and coaches this way:
“In essence, the clinician is trained to follow the trail of tears,” Kauffman says. Therapists search for signs of depression, anxiety, or emotional conflict and delve into the past. Coaches, on the other hand, “shift attention from what causes and drives pain to what energizes and pulls people forward. They follow the trail of dreams.”
4 Keys Ways that Coaching and Therapy Differ
An executive, life, and business coach, Catherine Wood, PCC, is the founder of Unbounded Potential, a coaching firm dedicated to helping rising star performers and women entrepreneurs. A former economist, Wood has led workshops and retreats around the world to help social change-makers create successful businesses.
“Knowing that clients are often confused about the differences between coaches and therapists, I address the question right upfront on my website in the FAQ section,” Wood says. She tells prospective clients that coaching is different from therapy in four ways:
1. Coaching focuses on the future and delves into the question: “How?” Therapy focuses on the past and tries to answer the question: “Why?” Coaching assumes you are whole and capable of leading a fabulous and happy life, says Wood. Therapy generally helps you heal from past harm or trauma.
2. Coaching explores what you want to create. Therapy explores what you want to fix. Coaching creates a safe space—free of judgment—for a client to identify what they most crave in life, while therapy focuses on fixing or eliminating a problem.
3. In coaching, the client and coach are partners. In therapy, the therapist is the expert. Coaching is based on the premise that you hold the answers and know what you want. A coach helps you identify life goals and how to achieve them. A therapist will determine what the problem is and support you in achieving catharsis.
4. A coach is catalytic, while a therapist is nurturing. Both are empathetic listeners, but a coach can be more direct, challenging you to test your comfort zone and using direct communication to help you get where you want to go. A therapist will likely be more patient and use indirect communication.
Like many accomplished coaches, Wood has her own coach. “It wasn’t easy, but eventually with the help of my own life coach, I took a stand for my dreams,” she says. “It meant taking some major risks, but today I can honestly say that I love my life.”
She says she continues to work with her coach on her own projects and goals so that she can consistently serve clients at a high level.
Basic Differences at a Glance
What They Do
Life Coach
Helps people by focusing on the future
Therapist
Helps people by focusing on the past
Duration of Client Engagement
Life Coach
Tends to be shorter term, three to 12 months
Therapist
Open-ended and varies widely, from months to years
Education
Therapist
A therapist can be a psychologist with a PhD…
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