3. Focus on the good and/or on finding solutions
What makes us unhappy is when we focus too much on the negative side of a situation rather than on the good. There are always two ways to look at everything. In addition, the situation is only “bad” because we label it as bad. As mentioned earlier, the situation in itself is neutral. So we can start by not labeling it as bad, but labeling it as a challenge to overcome. That already sounds more positive.
And then, don’t get stuck up on the negative side of a situation. Instead of nitpicking, overdramatizing, and making it out to be worse than it actually is, focus your energy on what’s good about the situation. Look at the bright side.
Also see what you can learn from it and how you can grow from it. Or if it’s hard to find the good in the situation because let’s say something really traumatizing or heartbreaking happened, then focus on finding a solution instead of dwelling in victim mentality such as “why me, why did this happen to me, life hates me, etc.” Think about how you can resolve this situation, make yourself feel better, or turn this problem into a cause for good.
The point is, we have to find peace, happiness, and contentment within ourselves so that we don’t look for it in things outside of ourselves. That way, we can truly enjoy and embrace the nice things we have and do, instead of constantly seeking them out in order to be more happy. And when things don’t go so well, at least our happiness isn’t compromised; and we simply just flow with it, learn from it, and grow from it.
Quick recap: Happiness is a mindset not dependent on anything outside of you. It’s an inner state of being. You have a choice to be happy in each moment because you have the power to perceive each situation as you wish. Life is here to guide you, not punish you, and when inconvenient things happen, they are opportunities to LEARN, GROW, and EVOLVE.
I really hope that this inspired you to find the happiness that already exists within you and to live a truly fulfilling life.
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