Learning to love your alone time — Follow Your Own Rhythm

And so during my time in “quarantine,” I realized HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO LOVE YOUR OWN COMPANY.  

It seems obvious, and we hear it all the time… “you have to love yourself, you have to find happiness within,” but it’s just words until you actually feel it and experience the truth of it for yourself. And that’s what happened to me the other day.

How do I enjoy my own company?

I give myself permission to be happy.

I give myself permission to laugh. And this includes laughing at myself!

I give myself permission to FEEL. Feel alive. Feel passion. Feel enthusiasm. Feel joy. Feel love. Feel connected. Feel thankful.

I give myself permission to let loose and be silly.

I allow myself to be vulnerable. This is huge!

I allow myself to LOVE and have that love flow in and out of me.

I allow myself to BE myself.

And it doesn’t take much. It actually doesn’t even matter WHAT you do, what matters is the mindset you have while doing it. 

I wake up each day and I CHOOSE to feel good. I choose to be grateful for my free time. And then I simply choose to do things that make me feel good. Things that lift me up, energize me, make me laugh, make me think, and make me happy.

More accurately, I don’ always do things that feel good, but I always choose to feel good while I do things. Well for the most part. I have my moments.

I try to add more joy to mundane tasks like going to the grocery store, washing dishes, or cooking (at least for me) by blasting good music and singing and dancing while doing it, and keeping a positive mindset. Music is a great way to lift your spirits, and singing and dancing is a great form of expression! 

I also have certain hobbies that I enjoy, as well as taking drives and going hiking. I really enjoy nature and sunshine, or reading and writing. So I make sure to incorporate these activities into my life, especially NOW.  These are just examples that may inspire you.

But the most important thing of all is not WHAT I’m doing, it’s how I feel while I’m doing it, and what I’m focusing on.  

For example, in order to enjoy our alone time, or just life in general, I think it’s very important to pay attention to the little things that happen around us and take them in, enjoy them and appreciate them. 

Basically to look around and see everything through the eyes of beauty, love and gratitude. This takes a certain level of awareness, and you have to train your mind to see things in this way, but once you’ve trained your focus, it becomes second nature.