We all want to be healed at some point of time in life. However, we are not ready to recognize and accept the flaws we have. To heal yourself, you need to start loving yourself and accept the way you are. Self love is a very important yet highly misunderstood concept among people across ages, almost everywhere. Some consider this to be evil, selfish, or even narcissistic. In many countries, serving others first and placing own-self at the end of the priority list considers to be the symbol of being a good and dutiful human being.
I am a new mother and I will share some of my own experiences. Readers may differ to my views which is absolutely fine. I am a healer too though I am sharing my experience to help everyone specially those who are not into healing or may have less understanding on self love.
Long ago, much before than my attunement to Reiki, I was introduced to a Reiki Grandmaster whom I used to visit during his classes which used to be complimentary. In one of his classes, he asked all the mothers whom they love the most. Almost all the mothers replied uniformly, their children. That sounds so normal. In fact, that’s normal. That was the day; the Reiki Grandmaster told us why it’s important to put ourselves first before loving anyone else. It’s not selfish.
In the journey of motherhood, most of the mothers become so overwhelmed and occupied with the wellbeing of the little one that they totally forget to take care of themselves. Their sleep pattern gets disturbed, their food habits change, their hobbies and interests take a backseat. Many of them don’t even take five minutes to sit and relax. It is so common. It happened to me too. However, one day I found myself really frustrated. I was thinking where is the ‘me time’! I am exhausted taking care of kid, home, everything but me.
To this thought or complain, people told me that it’s normal to have absolutely no ‘me time’ for a mother as her duty is to devote all her time, energy and everything into the kid. So what energy a frustrated mother transfers to her kid? This made me think quite deeply. Why only mothers, what energy anyone gives to others if he or she is completely drained?
It’s very important to keep yourself happy, hale and hearty. How can you pour from an empty cup? Can one irritated, dissatisfied, frustrated mom pour pure love to the child? Sometime or the other taking care of the child may seem like a burden – either consciously or in your subconscious mind. It is bound to happen. There is no question of unconditional love of a mother towards her child but not without taking care of own self first. It may come across very surprising or shocking to many but kids are pure and very quick to pick up energies from the surrounding. So your disturbed energies cannot be hidden from them. And if you observe, you will see a reflection of your not so happy self in them. Do you wish to see them picking up your broken pieces? I am sure, no parent would want…