Let’s talk about forgiveness and how to forgive, how to let go of all that resentments and all of that emotional heavy burden that is related to resentments. Resentments, from energy healing perspective, the way I perceive them, are seen like dark heavy dense energy that is literally poisoning us from the inside.
Of course we can talk about resentments and all of that negativity related to resentments for hours. We can talk for even more hours about the benefits of forgiveness work. To put it all in one simple sentence, the more resentments we accumulate and hold on to the more harm and damage we are causing to ourselves on emotional, physical, mental, spiritual levels.
And the funny thing is, that person you resent to may not even know that you resent that person, and probably doesn’t even care about you resenting that person. So, at the end of the day, the only one who is suffering from resentment is you.
For the sake of simplicity I break it down into 4 steps.
Step #1. Acknowledgment. You acknowledge who you resent and why do you resent that person. If you resent yourself, then why do you resent yourself.
Step #2. Expression. That’s where you allow yourself to fully express all that negative emotions, all negative feelings, hatred, pain, hurt, anger, grudges, all negativity that you have experienced from that resentment and how that other person made you feel like during that moment when it was created. You allow yourself to fully express it without any shame or guilt, in whatever words you want to express it.
Step #3. Lessons. We are always learning something. Our soul is growing and expanding by mastering certain qualities, by mastering and learning certain virtues, by learning particular life lessons. And this is not exception. We are still learning and mastering certain virtues, we are gaining some qualities, learning some life lessons. So our goal here is to find these lessons by asking ourselves a couple of good questions.
Simply ask yourself “what good lessons have I learned through that experience?”, “what can I possible learn positive or take positive for myself from that experience?”, “how that experience made me a better person?”, “how does that experience serve me?”, or “what would happen if a let go of that resentment completely and I forgive that person?” Sometimes it may serve us in a way that it may keep us safe or it may motivate us to do things or achieve things to prove to somebody that we are worthy, we deserve it, we are enough, we can be a better person, etc.
Quite often people would say “oh, I’m not getting or learning anything out of it” (keep asking and listen to the answer) or “I’m learning only negative stuff like how not to trust anyone, not to communicate, just know your place, who do you think you are, I am unworthy or don’t even try, shut up, stay…