When you were in your late teens or early twenties, you probably heard there’s nothing better than being friends with benefits with someone hot. If you are still young, you probably have been FWB with someone, and maybe you even liked it.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with having such a relationship. It even works for some people. The problem is how society romanticizes this situation. Everyone describes it as a way to be free while still having someone. But that’s contradictory. Some magic would have to be involved for that to be possible. So, people get into these types of relationships and wind up heartbroken.
Being in such a relationship is fine if that’s what you want. But the concept is inherently flawed. It promises all the benefits, with no disadvantages. So, it just lures people into a situation unsuitable for them. Plus, even though you might not believe it, you deserve more than being friends with benefits.
What Does It Mean to Be Friends With Benefits With Someone?
If you are a Millennial or part of Gen Z, you are familiar with the idea of having a friend with benefits. But, for those who don’t know, here’s a brief explanation.
Essentially, having a friend with benefits (or FWB) is supposed to be like being in a relationship without commitment and love. Your FWB is someone you regularly sleep with. You might even hang out and go on pseudo dates together. But you aren’t in an actual relationship. You aren’t exclusive, and you don’t consider each other partners. This works for some because you can technically have all the benefits of a relationship without any disadvantages.
Because you do not commit, the connection feels like a safe space. You can vent to your FWB if you’re having a bad day. But because you don’t have romantic feelings for each other, your situation won’t ever cause additional issues.
Sure, if you hear this about being friends with benefits with someone, it sounds fantastic. A relationship, but without the responsibilities and struggles. Just having fun and hanging out with someone. Who wouldn’t want that? If this were possible outside of your imagination, everyone would do it. But this concept has one inherent flaw: people are not robots–we have emotions.
Sure, for some people, having a FWB might be convenient. But those people are part of a minority. Most people want to have a real, meaningful connection with someone. They want a relationship but have to settle for having a friend with benefits. This is the new trend when it comes to relationships, so this is what people are going to do. Even if they want more, they’ll still do it because of how falsely it’s advertised.
4 Reasons Why You Deserve More Than Being Friends With Benefits
So, they end up being friends with benefits with someone. In that case, one of two things can happen. Either they get bored because they are romantically unsatisfied or catch feelings. You could argue that not much harm was done in the first case. Those people just lost a little bit of time, and that’s all. But in the second case, that’s where it gets tricky. Sure, in a dream world, you could confess your feelings, your FWB will reciprocate, and you’ll live happily ever after. But your heart will get broken if they don’t feel the same or aren’t ready for real commitment.
No matter how attractive having a friend with benefits seems, it will lead nowhere. You have …
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