It is very important to Stop Judging People for a relaxed and stress free life. In this article we will talk about how to do this with the help of law of attraction.
We all have judged people at some point in time. Maybe, we call it analyzing people or knowing them more. We judge people for different reasons. Sometimes, we want to see whether it is fair to trust them or not. Sometimes, we want to know whether a person is good or not (mostly in job interviews). And sometimes, it is just our stubborn nature to judge a person as someone comes along. There might not be any need to judge someone, but you still feel like doing so.
If you judge people knowingly or unknowingly, you should not feel alone. We all have done it at some point in our lives. But if you really want to stop judging people for no reason at all and accept them completely and unconditionally, then this article is right for you. First of all, we appreciate your effort in reading this article and considering this decision. We have all the tips which will help you accept yourself unconditionally and stop judging. But before that, let us just get to the basics and understand the standard mentality of all human beings concerning judgment.
Why do people judge others?
Since old times, it was essential to judge others. Maybe to determine whether a person is trustworthy or not, and this all governed a person’s survival. But times have changed, and we don’t fight for life and survival every day. Now, we judge a person to determine whether he is right or wrong in a relationship or a business venture. Ultimately, judging people is not harmful or a bad thing to do. However, if you are associated with negative judgment, it can result in total harm for you.
Some people judge others on autopilot without any reason or are just addicted to this habit. They judge based on religion, race, personality traits, and so on where there is no need for judgment at all. When the need for survival is not dominant, and judgment is done based on your ego, it is surely harmful. You judge out of fear or a way of feeling better, and you get into the negative mindset.
Some of the ego-driven examples of judgment are as follows:
- If you are ever scared of being alone, you might judge others who are in a relationship and remark them as ‘being too clingy.’
- If you fear poverty or being broke, you will judge rich people saying that it is too easy for them to earn wealth.
- If you are fearful of being wrong, you will judge others’ opinions and beliefs.
- If you fear being different from others, you might judge others based on race, caste, religion, colour, and other aspects.
All these fears derive from your ego, and you judge out of a need to satisfy your ego. When your identity or uniqueness is threatened, you naturally have an urge to judge others. We are not an expression of hatred and judgment but love, and we need to wear the mask of true love and experience the people and world around us and not judge them.
Law of Attraction and Judging People
You must have understood that judgment is not a bad thing, and it comes out of the human psyche, and you are not doing any evil. Hence, you don’t have to break this habit but get rid of the attachment around judgment. If it is an addiction, get over it. If it comes naturally, ensure that it does not come at all. You don’t have to let the ego be the master of emotions and overtake judgment. If it is not a survival-kind situation, you don’t need it. Simple!
As per the Law of Attraction, you cannot let judgment emerge out of ego and fear and rule it in your mind. If you judge without any necessity, it means it is your fear, and there is no place for fear or any negative emotion in the Law of Attraction.
Following are the solid reasons to get rid of this habit:
- It wastes your time and delays the process of manifestation.
- It reduces your vibrational level and gives rise to negative thoughts and emotions.
- You hurt others and complain more. You don’t feel the need to thank others and doubt their abilities and behaviour.
Tips to stop judging people
1. Determine the ‘why’ of your judgment behaviour
‘Why’ is an essential word and applies to every aspect of life, including the act of judging others. When you find yourself judging others, find the reason for the same. Or else you will never understand why you are judging others. What is the fear in my mind compelling me to judge others?
Suppose you send a message to your friend and they don’t reply. You judge they are not a good person and that they don’t pay attention to you at all. This judgment comes out of the fear of not seeking attention or a fear of being alone. Note down the fears, and you will notice the reason for your unreasonable judgment.
After figuring out the reason for your judgment, you can understand that the negative feelings are not associated with that person or place but are rooted out of your mind. You are the reason, but don’t blame yourself too much for it. You can control your emotions, and that is an amazing thing to happen. If you are annoyed with a person or have some kind of hostility, you need to fix that feeling. You don’t have to be enemies with a person to manifest something. Acceptance of your current mindset and the other person is crucial to override judgmental feelings. Just get to know yourself better, and it will help you understand others.
2. Learn to appreciate the differences
There is nothing more important than this tip, and you need to implement it in your life. It will help you stop judging others, end the rivalry and accept others easily. Unknowingly, we are engrossed in the cycle of being different and proving our uniqueness to others. But while showing how unique we are, we try to undermine others’ capabilities and identities by judging them on several aspects.
We all belong to the same world, but none of us are the same. We are unique in terms of appearance, thoughts, beliefs, religion, and the community we belong to. Even twins are different, and then, how can you expect the world to agree? However, it doesn’t imply judging others. We are different, and that’s why we grow and expand. If you understand this fundamental concept, you will not judge others based on differences.
Ignore the differences but celebrate the uniqueness in you. Once you do this, you can do it much better. Others are different, and you need to appreciate and be grateful for them. Because of them, you have a chance to grow and help others. Yes, it is indeed beautiful, and once you live in a diversified world with love and growth, you will never judge others.
3. Take the initiative to stop the issue
Sometimes, only one person doesn’t judge. It happens in groups. If you are a part of such a group, you need to put a step forward and stop the judgmental happenings. When you take the call, you take the initiative to change the world. You need not argue with the people who judge others. But you can address the issue very well and, of course, not participate in it. Even if you were not the one to pass judgment, you cannot stand there still and witness the drama. Moreover, you should not pass the blame and criticise them merely. Just take up the responsibility and try to resolve the issue.
So, next time when there is a judgment scenario in a group or a discussion, you can put forward your thoughts in a really straightforward way,
“I think we should understand them first before making any unreasonable statements.”
“I think we are unfair to a few who need to be understood and valued.”
“I think it is wrong to pass judgments so quickly.”
Any negative incident happening in your real, physical world becomes your ultimate responsibility, and you cannot sit and blame the situation and people, “Oh! They are so judgmental!”
4. Be alert of the external judgmental sources
Sometimes, the judgment does not come from your mind. It is derived from others and external sources without your knowledge. They might not even invite you to judge; it is just that you follow them unknowingly. Sometimes, it is the habit of gossiping that leads to judging others. Or it could be the influence of a famous person, and you start judging people of a specific community. Sometimes, it is your own family who has been sceptical about a particular community or person, and you judge them because of all the mental conditioning.
You don’t do it on purpose. You just cave into the feeling and start the act. You can even observe that a judgmental person often judges others and convinces you to do the same. They might manipulate you or bring out the judgmental attitude in you to help them gossip or talk about what they want. It is not possible to cut off from that person, but you can surely try to avoid such conversations involving judgmental talk and other negative feelings.
Such conversations make you judge others for no reason and boost your negative ego. They bring down your vibration level, and you steer away from the path to manifestation.
5. Build a positive mindset
You will become less judgmental and more loving and gentler when you build a positive mindset and get rid of a rigid and negative one. If you want to nurture the flowers in your garden, you need to get rid of the weeds first. Similarly, you need to remove all the negative thoughts from your mind to sow the seeds of positivity. So, get rid of the judgmental feelings and add the feelings of love and acceptance to your mind.
It is not easy, we all know. But it isn’t impossible at all. You can do it with a little bit of effort. As you implement the above tips, you can get rid of judgmental feelings. When you are positive about others and express love and acceptance towards them, you can experience that there is no place for your judgmental thoughts in your mind. But this doesn’t mean you need to stop criticizing others and criticize yourself for being judgmental. Never do that!
Just feed positive thoughts in your mind and let go of the negative ones, and it will be enough to stop judging others.
To sum it up, recognizing the reasons for your judgmental behaviour and taking a few steps as discussed above will help you stop judging people and act lovingly.